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Online Dating Another Crazy Story

Online dating is really addicting and hard to break away from when your just trying to find the right guy.  I was a little disappointed in the first guy but I picked myself up and stated to talk to other guys.

Adam was the next one 

I met him one Friday evening while I was looking at profiles on  He was in the military and seem really nice.  We started chatting and he wasn’t rude. He told me he was currently stationed in Afghanistan and would be coming back to the states soon.

He told me that he was a Major in the Army and was going to retire in about 3 years.  I thought wow what a wonderful time to meet someone.  He also told me he had one failed marriage and was looking for someone to show him around the town when he got home.

He asked me for a care package which I thought was appropriate until I asked him what he wanted me to send him.  First it was simple stuff like toothpaste, towels, and shampoo.  Then it got a little stranger when he asked me to include coloring books, crayons, and soccer balls.  I asked what those things and he stated the kids over there in Afghanistan have nothing to play with and he would like to donate some things before he leaves.   I thought wow that seems like a really sweet gesture.

Now comes the 2 things I didn’t expect.  He wanted me to include a webcam and a laptop because he was using his friends.  He told me this was a way for us to communicate.  I then asked him to email me a picture.  I looked at it closely and realized that he was an E-4 which is an NCO in the Army not an officer.   My dad was in the Army for 28 years and I know my ranks.

When I asked him about it he chuckled and said “I was just testing you to see how smart you were”.  I then chuckled back and said “I’m smart enough to know that you are trying to scam me and I won’t be sending you anything.”.  I then hung up the phone and thought this is nice now the military dudes are getting in the action of scamming chicks into giving them stuff too.

Grrrrr this can’t be that hard to find a decent dude with the same interests I have while using the online dating services provided.




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What you see may not be what you get
Online dating:  What you see may not be what you get

More on Online Dating

I didn’t realize that the guys who I was chatting with online may be lying.  Oh man that was a real hard pill to swallow.  Now I’m going to share some experiences about what happened to me so maybe you will be more successful at the beginning than I was.  o swallow.

Robert the Scammer

On my first try at this online dating I almost quit because of a guy named Robert.  He was a charmer and a scammer.

Robert was about to quit his membership for the month which meant he only had a couple of days to chat online through the service.  I didn’t know at that time but that is a big clue that they want something.  Also because I was new and naive at this whole thing it made me an easy mark.

His profile read like a romance novel which was exactly every girls dream.  In the picture he was a well groomed over 45 year old man with an amazing smile.  Chatting online with him was great he kept me interested and complimented me.  He agreed with my thoughts and had similar thoughts as well.  Hmmmmm this is way to easy I thought.

The day before his subscription was to run out he asked if we could communicate through email or possibly text.  I gave him both without question.  Now since we weren’t on chat in the service he was even more charming and sent some pictures of him and his son.

I found out that he was currently in China on assignment with his work and was a single father of an 8 year old boy because his wife died.  He also told me he would be flying back to the states in 2 weeks and wanted to stop off in my city first before heading home.  This by the way was all through email.

He then called me one day and my doubts started to sink in a little.  His tone, sentence structure, and accent didn’t match his picture or what I thought it should be for someone residing in the US.  He got a little annoyed with me when I asked him about those things and told me he grew up in Australia.  He asked me to get an international phone card so I could call him and prove that he was in China.  I’m still a little naive at this point and I did.

The next time I talked to him it was planned by him and the country code was wrong because of course by this time I’m doubting him.   I called and his sentence structure was even worse because we talked longer.  He kept saying “I Love You” when I asked things like “What time is it over there?”.

By this time I think he knew he was losing me and started making reference to his son who needed a mother.  He told me that he and his son are stuck in China because his company didn’t wired him the correct amount of money for plane tickets.  He asked me for $3000.00.  I fell out of my chair and told him I couldn’t give him money.  He tried to play on my mother sympathies and told me his son wanted to meet me and we should all become a family.  Oh it was thick.

I finally started researching online about other situations like this and came up with lots of people getting scammed out of lots of money.  by the way he wanted me to either transfer money out of my account into his or wire him the money.  I of course said “No and to stop all contact with me because I believe you are trying to scam me.”.  He got really upset and offended at these comments.  He called me untrustworthy and told me I wasn’t the woman for him.  I guess I was suppose to feel bad about that and beg him back but instead I hung up the phone, blocked the number, and put him in my spam folder on email.

I didn’t quit trying to find a nice guy with online dating I just became more aware of the guys I was chatting with and who got my number.  It is a fun and interesting way to meet guys but caution is the key to success.


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It’s scary but being prepared is the key

What to know about Online Dating

When I started online dating I had to clue about what to do or ask because I had not dated in 17 years.  I was scared and nervous just to enter my profile.  I mean really a picture and from what era.  I asked myself which site do I go too and I didn’t know anyone that had ever tried online dating at work or my friends.

So let me tell you some interesting things about online dating.  There are sites that are just for hook ups even though the site isn’t promoted that way.  There are sites that let you preview what they offer and then tell you how much it costs monthly.  The sites on the ads either on TV, online, or on the radio ask about the same type of questions.

First thing is you need to find a recent picture of your entire self or just a head shot.  Some people actually put pictures of themselves when they were in their prime and way younger than they are now.  Others actually use someone else picture and try to get money from us lonely hearts.  We need to be open minded when we start our search as well as knowledgeable on how to search.

Next you need to answer the questions truthfully.  When you start getting men to respond to your profile and you forgot what you answered to some of the questions he will stop responding.  My favorite restaurant is PF Changs and no one else I knows like to eat there with me.  I put that on my profile and that was the first date I had with my amazing boyfriend Paul.  Interested guys do read your profiles and they will attempt to meet your expectations if they are the right man.