When I started online dating I had to clue about what to do or ask because I had not dated in 17 years. I was scared and nervous just to enter my profile. I mean really a picture and from what era. I asked myself which site do I go too and I didn’t know anyone that had ever tried online dating at work or my friends.
So let me tell you some interesting things about online dating. There are sites that are just for hook ups even though the site isn’t promoted that way. There are sites that let you preview what they offer and then tell you how much it costs monthly. The sites on the ads either on TV, online, or on the radio ask about the same type of questions.
First thing is you need to find a recent picture of your entire self or just a head shot. Some people actually put pictures of themselves when they were in their prime and way younger than they are now. Others actually use someone else picture and try to get money from us lonely hearts. We need to be open minded when we start our search as well as knowledgeable on how to search.
Next you need to answer the questions truthfully. When you start getting men to respond to your profile and you forgot what you answered to some of the questions he will stop responding. My favorite restaurant is PF Changs and no one else I knows like to eat there with me. I put that on my profile and that was the first date I had with my amazing boyfriend Paul. Interested guys do read your profiles and they will attempt to meet your expectations if they are the right man.
I’m going to start with where I am today and move backwards to how I got there. I met my right guy on Match.com. His name is Paul and he is the most amazing and the right guy for me.
Yes I know meeting someone online is risky behavior but so is going to bars or flirting at the grocery store over the cucumbers. After meeting several different men online I have come to a conclusion that some women just settle for what they get. WOW that is the wrong way to be happy and satisfied. We need to look for what we want and we will find it.
That’s one of the things I think woman forget to think about when they are trying to meet the right guy. It’s about who is the right guy for you and not your family or friends. A woman who is looking for the right guy will find him if she remembers what she is looking for and not be seduced by the other men who want her.
The How I met my Right Guy
Paul was starting his profile and I was a couple of days away from ending my subscription. I saw his picture and screen name “Computer Geek” on February 10th. I smiled to myself and said that’s the guy for me. I do need to let you know my family considers me spontaneous at times. So I opened a chat box to talk and we chatted all night. More on Paul in later posts.
During my online dating phase I had the opportunity to go out with several different types of guys. I didn’t know what kind of questions to ask and I didn’t want to buy a book on “Online Dating for Dummies”.
I tried several online dating services and all had their ups and downs. I really didn’t know what I was looking for in a partner but I knew there had to be someone out there better than my exs and someone for me.
I’d been married for 17 years and I was only divorced for 6 months when I started this adventure. I didn’t know there were men who were scamming women for money. I didn’t know it could potentially be a hook up. By the way I didn’t know what hook up meant either. I didn’t know that married men use these sites to find someone to cheat with either through sex chatting online or actually meeting the woman. It seems so innocent but there are really pitfalls.
Questions to consider when online dating
Some experiences with men I encountered while online dating
I’m Nancy. I’m a fabulous 48 year old single mother. My son is an amazingly smart 11 year old despite his father’s influence. That is a different story all together.
I have been a nurse for the last 20 years. I’ve worked as a floor nurse on a pediatric unit, as a unit director of the pediatric unit and now I work as a computer nurse which is the coolest job ever. Before that I had several different jobs like a CNA and a Wal-Mart cashier in the layaway department at Christmas. Those were difficult jobs but I got through it and moved forward.
I’ve been married and divorced twice. I’ve dated several men in my lifetime and I’ve learned a lot from those experiences. I believe I’ve found the one man that is exactly what every woman is looking for but it took work to find him and lots of bumps in the road.